We do not judge the people we love.

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Thu, 23 May 2013 02:23:59 -0400

On October 7, 1849, Edgar Allan Poe was found, near death, on a...

Thu, 23 May 2013 02:22:58 -0400

On October 7, 1849, Edgar Allan Poe was found, near death, on a park bench in Baltimore, Maryland. The last days of his life remain a mystery.

takingsparks: rinmae: an0m0ly: Damage This is not my usual...

Thu, 23 May 2013 02:21:27 -0400

takingsparks:

rinmae:

an0m0ly:

Damage

This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.

I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.

I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.

This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.

I left the room (so as to comply with her request).

I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder.

She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”

She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.

The results are pictured here.

I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”

I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened.

She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”

I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.”

She said, “No, you don’t.”

I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.

She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”

After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.

I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.

Abusers come in all sizes and genders.

She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”

None ever thought to ask me.

Thanks for listening.

eXCUSE ME

BUT IM REBLOGGING THIS BECAUSE MEN NEED JUST AS MUCH SUPPORT AS WOMEN DO.

Abuse is abuse.

It doesn’t matter who it is, how big they are, or their gender.

It’s wrong.

chiefrelic: My friend Maggie ;)

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:31:51 -0400

chiefrelic:

My friend Maggie ;)

exornali: Original...

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:20:16 -0400

exornali:

Original here :

http://www.pixiv.net/member_illust.php?mode=medium&illust_id=7701090

me: makes a mistake

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:14:36 -0400

me: makes a mistake
me: thinks about mistake every night for the next 7 years

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Wed, 22 May 2013 23:14:27 -0400

cosplayingwhileblack: X Character Storm Series: Marvel Comics

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:13:15 -0400

cosplayingwhileblack:

X

Character Storm

Series: Marvel Comics

venomwulf: jackhollow: Me at a show before my half...

Wed, 22 May 2013 21:33:50 -0400

venomwulf:

jackhollow:

Me at a show before my half sleeve..lool tat looks crappy.^^.btw..i stopped smoking 6 months ago.:]

ughugh 0_o

chicavegan: Nuf said.

Wed, 22 May 2013 21:33:35 -0400

chicavegan:

Nuf said.

bureaucraticdeath: I love girly girls that wear bright colors and floral patterns and have long...

Wed, 22 May 2013 18:08:47 -0400

bureaucraticdeath:

I love girly girls that wear bright colors and floral patterns and have long hair

I love androgynous girls with spiky hair that wear baggy jeans and sweaters

I love sweet innocent girls in sundresses with wide eyes and soft voices

I love hardcore girls with tattoos and piercings with attitude

I just love girls (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

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Wed, 22 May 2013 17:58:58 -0400

ghoulsnextdoor: sexrockaddict: Me encanta ese colgante...

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:58:42 -0400

ghoulsnextdoor:

sexrockaddict:

Me encanta ese colgante <3

Same! haha <3

mortisia: Alone by Edgar Allan Poe “Alone” is a 22-line poem,...

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:57:28 -0400

mortisia:

Alone by Edgar Allan Poe

“Alone” is a 22-line poem, originally written in 1829 and left untitled and unpublished during Poe’s lifetime. “Alone” is often interpreted as autobiographical, expressing the author’s feelings of isolation and inner torment. Poet Daniel Hoffman believed “Alone” was evidence that “Poe really was a haunted man.”The poem, however, is an introspective about Poe’s youth, written when he was only 20 years old.

samaelandlilith: Happy World Goth Day!

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:45:52 -0400

samaelandlilith:

Happy World Goth Day!

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Wed, 22 May 2013 17:45:47 -0400

a-short-history-of-nothing: vintagegal: Elvira’s 1958...

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:45:26 -0400

a-short-history-of-nothing:

vintagegal:

Elvira’s 1958 Thunderbird (x)

Dream car to end all dream cars

I don’t always reblog cars. But when I do, they’re damn right sexy. *.*

nini-likes-vodka: Omfg all these words are Greek

Wed, 22 May 2013 17:41:23 -0400

nini-likes-vodka:

Omfg all these words are Greek

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Wed, 22 May 2013 17:40:23 -0400

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